About Having Kids

The actual problem is not about kids, it is about showing a flashy image of playing with kids and then you get attracted and craving for it, or believing an idea, an old man with regrets, and then trying to avoid it. I am working on and will transcend this layer. Instead of trying to follow what it is saying, in a moment, the whole voice changes. No substance here.

Then life is about experiences, and it is one of the major experiences, the experience of raising and guiding life, the attachment of child, and needs of it. There is also a huge responsibility that comes with it. There are a lot of other experiences, and you will not have them all. The experience of love and transcends, the experience of meaningful work, wealth, passion…

Some people have such a nature that they enjoy playing with kids, for whatever reasons, I don’t have such nature, I have a nature of self-realizations, others don’t. I don’t have an inherent craving for it.

There is a clear no for me to get stuck in the realm of mind, and ego. and have this experience, Also, doing such with attachment and lack of spiritual maturity, leads to controlled, bruised, neglected, and left child. And this experience like any other experience is impermanent and has no inherent happiness. Yet it is a beautiful experience to consider. Although you have no control here and expecting happiness from such an experience is counterproductive. Because the sequence of events can be anything, The kid you have may die, etc.

As you grow spiritually, there is a lack of me, or ego, and my child. In that case, every kid is just a kid, and you stay longer with life, you come close to it.

The line of action is work on yourself, and get to the point where you are truly ok, and feeling great love and joy within, and from that place, if you like have a kid, or adopt an orphan, it makes no difference, and you will be giving not taking anything. And this is high stuff.

Also, If you feel like, go and live in an orphanage sometimes, and see if you can serve there. and see what kids are doing and feel any connection to them.

But the most important thing is to go deep within and reach the point of total fulfillment, and joy and then only see what experience is important. Also as you evaluate other experiences you will become more clear but because I see on TV or someone said something nice, I am not going to start having kids.