About the attraction.

There is this attraction towards women, and it is distorting, I saw sruti, her skin and youth is attractive, so is with sneha, and other women, if my priorites are not clear. this becomes primary decision maker.

Also when my mind see a beautiful women it starts to think of breaking up with Lin etc. The process is simple I see a beautiful women, there is some desire within and I start to get pull to talk to them etc.

This should be the least important aspect. the reason is there will always be someone more attractive. and the beauty will fade with time anyway.

Replace it with priorities.