Break-Up.

The main reason -

• The conflict of interest. For me it is mainly about learning, exploration and emotional fulfilment. For her it is becoming way too serious like soulmate, commitment, serious relationship. And this comes with some non-verbal expectations which are causing discomfort to me.

The effect of breaking-up-

• This will probably sting her. But if done correctly will soften the blow. But if you communicate properly And then totally cut down the communication, within a month or so she will be normal. But if you keep her on hook. She will continue this for long.

For me it is not that serious. I can recalibrate my efforts and grow.

The effect of not breaking-up - if you don’t get this clear, she will hang on to this for long time in the hope. Like sohail. You don’t want to do that.
Otherwise she can meet other people.

For me, it can be devastating, I don’t want that kind of commitment.

What is inside my circle of control - what she do and how she reacts is not inside my circle of control. And even if I want I can not do much about it. All I can do is close it with grace.