Control.Judgement.Ego.Disrespect.Assert.

Forcing their beliefs, their desires, their ideas. Demanding. Disapproving your opnion, your pursuits, your view of reality. Judging, disregarding, laughing, looking away, displeased. Advicing. Too eager to find the faults. Want things their way, afraid that they wouldn’t get it.

These people are in their head. Holding theri Beliefs too tightly. Too afraid to be wrong. Alone, closed. hurting themself. Making it hard for others to touch them. Blaming and controlling others so they can justify it all to themself , My heart is filled with compassion for them.

Let them give their negative feedback. Let them critise, let them justify it to their inner judge. There is nothing personal. Let it land and let it go. Do not waste your energies where it is useless to do so. Life is too short.

But if you are in the relationship of some kind, and the regular interactions are inavtibale then listen what they are saying, acknowledge their emotions and perceptions. Maybe even agree to the parts. Make them to take responsibility of what they are saying. And than let them know you don’t appreciate theri style of delivery, let them know the consequences in terms of your contact with them.

Tell them clearly how their behaviour make you feel, describe it, tell them how would you like them to behave with you. Tell them them how much you would appricate any effort from their side.

just because they desire, doesn’t make other people to be responsible to full fill them. You don’t need any reason, justification or have to apologise for saying no to their demands. These people needs to be told firm NOs. For your benifts and for their benifits and for the benift of the relationship between two. like a broken record. You don’t need their acceptance of your No. say no and move on. Let them tell you how mean and selfish you are because you dare not to comply to their demands.

They don’t have to change, you don’t need to make them, nor it is in your circle of control. but you don’t have to shallow the poision pill, let them make Tantrum, thats how they learnt to get things their way like a innocent child. Let them make drama, let them dance around you. Let them. Just smile and move on.