Diagnosis.

So the blocker that is the center of my attention these days is what I meant when I say I am cultivating my social skills. to be honest it feels like a stinging pain and manifestation of it is quite clear, quite often. so as I start to explore the nature of it. start to diagnose it. it is self evident that I don’t even understand the problem. it is like I know there is a pain. but I don’t know from where it is coming. or even If I can put my finger, it is very gross observation. and it makes no sense to apply remedy without knowing problem properly. the progress trap. I think there are 3 elements to self-diagnosis.

educate yourself - this can save tremendous time. and unnecessary pain caused by confusion. premature attempt doesn’t really carry a weight and it is super easy to give up. at the understanding level game has to be very clear. and the daddy dom here is to read books. no video or podcast really hit as hard as a book hits. knowing the game creates an essential confidence I guess. but the main problem is it is in itself can not bring the change itself. only the actions and experiences can.

observe - not everything that you read is written by an enlightened person. and the view it presented can be distorted, conditioned or biased. I don’t need to tell myself the most destructing thing in my life so far was stupid, conditioned beliefs I had and have. unbiased observation is key point to realize the understanding. this is really important to solidify. the trick is that observation is automatically poor in anxious, afflicted situation. and healthy in non afflictive situations. use that time more wisely. may be even introduce small experiments. to see how it goes.

action - there is absolutely no substitute to this. all the understanding and observation is barely a denial without actions. actions and experience are the real deal. the big league. but it can be very harsh to play big league without having some practice. everything is leading to this only.