for the naysayers

I’ve been recently in conversation with several friends. and broadly there was 2 categories.

several people talked with a genuine curiosity. as I was trying new stuffs they have their concern like what if it didn’t work and what if all this time is wasted. they were trying to understand what i was doing and passing appropriately their point of view. and sharing their own problems and concern along the way. I am really thankful to these people.

than there was these friends who were not interested, or care about any of the stuff I was doing, majorly concern with proving they are right and were passing judgement and basically trying to tear me down. but the problem is these were not just any people. they are my old friends.

so why they are doing it. the major reason seems to be “ the discomfort of knowing about possibility of better life yet inability to take action because of fear. ” and top it up with the ego. or may be some other reason but one thing I am sure about. whatever these people were telling me, was not coming out of compassion or goodwill for sure.

and the problem is criticism and judgement does affects me specially when it comes from people I am close to. it is pretty clear that when my mind is not economies. these thoughts creeps in. which seems like quite common trend when I meditate. I am not going to allow this to happen to me.

so what exactly I should do about it. the thing is I need to be very clear about with whom I am going to share advice, criticism or have any spiritual conversation. and here is the criteria.

if someone can not empathise with me. and sitting on sideline and passing judgement is clearly has no reason to have any meaningful conversation with me.

even for my close friends if the whole motivation behind their criticism or advice is either the projection of their problem or the fear to leave their comfort-zone I am not really interested to share anything personal (if anything at all). because these people usually take advantage of the vulnerable.