humility

humility seems to me one of the best quality any human being can cultivate. it is clear sign of a healthy relationship with ego and pride.

I spent a lot of time being rigid unable to laugh on myself, too much pride, too much importance on myself. how could I be wrong I am better than everyone else after all. but that was a naive thinking.

but it seems to be more than just a quality it is also a great indication of unhealthy attachment to certain things.

for an example If I can not laugh with my friend at some of the stupidity or embarrassing thing I’ve done in past. it’s clear sign of something needs to be reframed and required better perspective.

being laughed on oneself is onething but listening to an arrogant person, who also gives free advices, which is more of the projection of his problems is another beast. I thought about it a lot and the conclusion really hit me.

I really need these people in my life. they usually point to something that I am ignoring, why would I get irritate if there is no substance into it. i didn’t get irritate from other conversation I had with same guy. he is provoking something I am not in healthy relationship with. there couldn’t be a clearer way for someone to tell me about my denials.

I should be thanking these people and meditating on the potential denials. rather than cursing them in my mind or proving myself how I was right in those situations.