Learning of the day #28. Mom.

Around few minutes back I had conversation with on the phone. She started with oh who would take care of you, you have to eat outside, kind of feeling sorry for me. Then she launched brothers complain, they are bringing thier in laws in home. And then she launched, tune Naak Katwa di. Direct attack on respect.

She asked why you didn’t make the phone call, and then started to mock the exercise.

In return I started get angry and defend myself. Bhai mare ko Apne jindagi to jeene do. Then she started yelling more, hamne pata hota to padhate Nahi and all.

Now would a reasonable, rationale person thinks like that. She probably talked to someone today and they said something like your son my son etc. and she feel defeated and angry, then it came out with so much anger and once she was unsafe she started to protect herself by yelling.

There was an amazing act happened, in the middle of conversation I was aware the saftey is being voilated. And I have to do something.

At this point I also need to know what to I want for myself, for her and for the relationship. That can be foundation.

The worst was what I did, start defending and got angry. I should have rather explore her story and fact. And then I also need to communicate her what kind of things I don’t like to hear and hold her accountable.