Learning of the day #30. Advising walaskser.

Toady walasker called me and asked me for the advice on since he has money now what should he be doing.

The way he talked was how much money you have and constantly changing thoughts, his questions were not clear. He thought about taking off from the work. And doing something that is more interesting.

My intention wasn’t clear either. I wasn’t sure what should I be talking about. My intention should be to be him happy. This was the chance to serving. He has a nobel motive and I could help to figure out the right direction.

The way I could help is to get him clear what he is thinking kind of being a rebound mirror. And then filling the larger picture. And let him come to the conclusion.

Instead of interfering I should have listen him first. Find the clear why behind his strategy. And then telling your perspective. Whenever you are asked for the advice, listen other person story and why and then make sure you repeated and understood their point and then give your perspective on the same.

I was kind of forcing my ideas on him. Making it more unsafe for him.

At one point I understood that I want to help him not win or make a good impression. And listened and advised. Although I was a little bit more forceful and in my own zone. I could have calibrated for him.