Learning of the day #39. Forcing to Impressing.

In the morning, it was 9 o’clock, I was already kind of late, I told her to complete her assignment and then spent 1+hour building a calculator for her. She seems to have no interest to use it.

The intention wasn’t to help her but to show her that look I can do this. I wanted to impress her. In that hurry I actually forced my will on her. She didn’t want to use that, or might even have other plans but I forced her any way. Now she is obligated to use it.

If you want to help someone you have to influence in their world, you have to listen and understand their world and when you know you can offer some help then only do it. Otherwise it is just your desire for competition and acceptance.

For some people it will create the argumentative battle for others counterfeit kind of yes.

From your side, It is your desire for compete, impress, praise, acceptance.. that you need to let go.