Learning of the day #9 confroning disrespect.

Day before he gave me a nonverbal look. Yesterday this guy told me, about filling the bottle. I did sense a bit of disrespect, then he grew and took away the jug. Today he didn’t even listen. You see if you don’t put the boundaries it grows.

I wasn’t that angry but a part of me knew if I will not react it will be growing inside. I went and confront. Now the situation was such that, I confronted him in front of few people. He wasn’t listening and pretending to give the look. Now the other guy listen and try to de-escalate.

My voice was not very much in control, and there seems the lack of strength. It could also be diplomatic and indirect. I was also feeling or coming out of the phase of doubt.

This is the skill I need to learn and master and I am moving towards getting better in it.

Confronting was actually good for you, as you cultivated the skill. It was good for him too. Although I wish the intention could be more compassionate, it wasn’t anger. You need to grow in direct confrontations.

Internally it is connected to the same need of acceptance and telling other people what to do.

You can also be a bit more edgy with people you know are very self centred. More requesting with people you know are soft.

Another thing is you could swing the bat bit more further, and become not assertive but mean. Or pretend to be one. That will align it to the middle. Not confront but tell them what to do. Or become disrespectful yourself.

Ultimately you need to speak the truth regardless of wether it is hurting your feeling or their.

I could be more authoritative and strict while giving order. You could have told him, Kya narajgee hai Bhai. You could be aggrasive on oy hello Kya Dinkkat hai Bol Raha hno chod ke chala jaa, sunai ne de Raha. Attitude kis baat ka de raha hai. That would be swinging the bat in other direction.

I have no direct business with him so I can also tell his master that his behaviour is poor.

Doubt thing is related to self mastery so if you are in the rythym you wouldn’t feel that. It has a direct connection with morning and the daily grind.