Lin.

There is circling thought around marraige and long term commitment, and It is making me unsettling. Lin never really asked for any thing long term. It is me who is assuming all this.

I want to be in the long term relationship, for the sake of relationship, closeness, connection and intemacy. I wanna be in one wholeheartedly.

This is my conditioning actually, that if I am with someone I had to be married. Just like mahatma gandhi. This isn’t necessary condition for her.

What you have to do is relax and enjoy the relationship. Instead of complicating with all this.

If you see it from her point of view, she is alone from last month, doing yoga TTC to keep herself busy. She was actually very happy when she was with me.

She is not stupid, she is living in a foreign countary, supporting herself, living in a dignified manner. She can think for herself.

What this relationship is the deep, true relationship, a relationship where you genuinely care about other person. A relationship where you are not learning or trying but is in one.