Lin and romantic relationship.

This comes on the level of me and the world, Either me must have the connection with god, or living alone can be disturbing. living together can be very consuming and even a hindarence. Living in confusion is worse.

There is a detachment happening in the inner level. Detachment from the doer. The nature of reality is keep getting clear. This pursuit should not be abandone. Its intensity should not be compromised.

The challenge is relationship can not be cast aside if tomorrow you had a insight that all this is meaningless, The relationship also has en element of stability or bondage depending on what ventage point I am seeing it from.
Living alone creates lethargy, living together can agitates the mind.

Taking a decision on the level of me requires to work your way through all the other options. Living on the level of awareness there is only compassion.

The way I see the relationship is, it is just the better arrangment of worldly life, It is living alone vs. living in a relationship.

Lin is a good women, she has a lot of shortcoming, she made a lot of bad choices, her intentions are not bad, she has awareness but she acts on the level of me, she is incapable of taking advantage of other people. She just want someone to be kind to her and care about her. She is very willing to listen and work.

She can not say no, she lacks self discipline, she has a bad health or she thinks she had. she keeps things inside. she hasn’t process the past stuff and it is bothering her.

Her friend circle is full of people who are taking advantage of her. They don’t do much for her and keep asking for the favour from her, in a healthy freindship like relationship they will not have anyone who will do it.

In the relationship she gives more than she takes, If I ever try to do something for her she tries to return it back as soon as she can.

Another major challenge is the way she sees the relationship, she doesn’t say it, but for her relationship is the centre piece. She doesn’t have any major ambition so she puts all the expectation in relationship.

Being in a relationship ask to spend time and nourish it, being there for each other and it gives a lot of stimulations and requires a lot of time. Mind has this nature of adopting to all kind of object, If I don’t put that object it will take some other object.

Generally speaking people have all kind of expectations. Not being met those expectation they become bitter.

Relationship is clearly a hinderance as it produce a lot of stimulus, Reading and practicing spirituality day and night is also a hinderance as it is coming out of the attachment. consistent patient enquiry is what is required.