Mastery of love.

A relationship is two dreamers dreaming a small dream together. To build a dream together you need to know your personal dream and direction of the mutual dream.

The challange is in our personal dream lives a parasite. Our beliefs are infected with lies. And to protect those lies we have built the whole denial system.

We have the need of lying because we have an image of perfection to protect to ourself and in front of others. The parasite is the judge, eager to vicitmize us against this template of rejection. So we wear a social mask and project an image in front of other people and one to ourself as well. Our denial system let us pretend everyone sees us the way we want them to see, We have another image for our partner to fit so we can protect this whole structure of lies.

The more self judgment people have the less self love they experience. If they don’t have any self - love what kind of love you can expect for them. They venture in to a relationship with the expectation to find that love. And become controlling and pretending. They become jealous. Needy and take everything personally. They co-create a dream of selfishness, there is no love but neediness. Where both are trying to fit another into the image they have created for them. Constant conflicts are inavitable. Both are starving.

But when you have self love and no need of acceptance. Relationship is a choice and you will not tolerate any kind of abuse. Dreamers awarely choose and experiment with the dream. They understand their sickness and deal with it by themself. And help others to uplift when they are possessed with the power of their self love. They know love is coming from inside.

They respect and serve in the each other’s dream. While also creating deep intimacy as a mutual dream from where they draw deep emotional security. This kind of love is not needy and restrictive but uplifting freeing.

It is gift if the dreamers share the common dream and playing the same game. For that they will have a common ground and alignment. For example if they both want to grow spiritually it will make it beautiful to have a companion who is willing to walk the same path. This commonness and alignment are the foundation of a lasting realtionship and understanding.

That does not mean you should restrict yourself to only the relationship where there is a common ground. You can experiment a closeness when the dreams are different but you don’t expect to change the dog into a cat or vice versa. And you never be selfish. If merchandise doesn’t fit you must be willing to let go.

To know you must be willing to take risk and try. If you are not afraid of rejection. Not willing to be controlled. And ready to play and love. And practice. To know others dream you need to talk to them. You don’t assume.