Movement to dating.
Calibrated movement on relationship ladder is the movement from attraction to dating. If I dont make a conscious effort in the direction, I can not expect to grow. And should not be expecting the kind of relationship I want.
The goal is to learn the process and grow in social domain, the goal is nither to satisfy sense pleasure nor expanding or protecting ego. But simply to learn. The mechanics of learning is simple.
The frame is to grow yourself and help other people to grow and make their day beautiful.
The layer of person involve the helos, beliefs and experiences, ego, and self, the value of person is in the transcends of these layers.
intiation and approachability - until you are very sure with the other person wants to be left alone, intiate a small conversation around what have you seen here, and what brought you here, with light banter, build the conversation for 2-3 minutes if other person reciprocate then go further, otherwise you have made your self approachable.
On spot dating - if attraction level is good, do the dating there itself for around 15 minute, move conversation to self layer, or belief/experience layer. To mutual interest and close it before it pells. Screen other person based on your criteria. [ is she growth oriented or on ego layer with smoking and all ]
Dating - it has to be predominately on self layer, with greadully leading conversation to open other person more and more deeply. Keep it light and mysterious with letting other person talk predominately, childhood regression. If on belief layer keep going deeper. If on self layer keep going intimate, deflect with banter, kino keep leading further. Arrange it so it ends in an hour or so. Keep it vague in terms of your feeling. If it goes well go to second place for a glass of wine.
Second date after atleast gap of one day - act as you are already in realtionship. Topic must be from last It is no more screening and topics must be around self and deep experience. And focus should be to get more intimate. If you haven’t kissed in second date. Leave to that. And from there onword the physical play must be on table.