relationship and marriage.
if there is one topic that haunted me before and bothers me now than it has to be this one. but the more I understand myself and world around me. it starts to make a bit more sense to me.
love
the major point on the matrix of marriage, you got to be in love with the person who you are going to married. and what is love anyway ? ohh it’s that awesome feeling, it’s when you put yourself after your partner, it’s when other person completes you !, it’s that romantic belief that there is only one special person out there. bullshit
than what is not love ? it has to be when you are not having that awesome feeling. it has to be when you put yourself first…
and when you say ohh it’s that awesome feeling, do you feel awesome all the time ? no !, and do you know why you are feeling good ?, and what if you stop feeling good. it is very much possible to happen if you don’t really know why you were feeling good at first place. and what if you start feeling good with someone else.
love seems like a blind faith to me.
this is the vague and illusionary concepts, this is how the attachments work exaggerating what you want to see and diminishing what you don’t want to see. and blocking the reality.
let me take it further, if there is a love there has to be hate. do you hate someone ? why do you hate them ? because they are stupid, because they believe in something else. because they don’t look good. and why they behave like that and how do you know you are not behaving same way !
from what I understand it doesn’t make sense to me that there is something call love that is present in person in front you. and it will make you content or complete. infect it seems to be other way around. if you feel content in your life, you will feel love in everything. if I can deepen this understanding that everyone is just like me trying to be happy but some people are searching it in wrong places how could you hate anyone.
the problem is ego, if you have a big ego which is huge misunderstanding of reality. you are not even capable to love anyone. if you have no ego at all ( just imagining it’s not a black and white thing ) you can not help but love each and every person.
instead of finding a person who’s presence makes you feel good, find a person who is open, who’s values are similar to you. who has potential to go beyond mind traps. understand where they stand on there ego, is she capable to let go. where is she in her spiritual journey. better marry a mind than body.
or even better reach a point where you can love everyone.