break the conversation.
yesterday I went through several scenarios and lets break them down and see if you have solution.
the conversation -
open -
there could only be 2 scenarios- either existential reality is expected to talk ( like a meetup / party after retreat ) or intruding ( like 2 people talking in a cafe ).
scenario -1
in a new group of people you can open a person, with situational opener, location/occasion, or opinion opener. the very law of reciprocity demand other person to reply. try to keep the pressure low.
e.g.
- this place looks pretty cool.
- are you from mumbai !!
- have you done acting before !!
- let me ask you this, what is the rent is like here in mumbai.
size up -
from the first answer acutely notice, how comfortable this person is talking to another person, how open or close this person is, if the person is close either because of nervousness or societal conditioning to avoid stranger. it’s ok just notice and make sure you calibrate your talking time based on that.
notice the word being spoken. take note of vocabulary. see if you can find any link or was it just plain short answer. tactics that can be used for building flow here. make 3 moves atleast. use their words.
- linking ( with common interest ). if all you got couple of words move the conversation forward with these words. unsual reference.
- answer slightly different question.
- parrot.
- HMP.
- threading.
- latest news.
- heros journey.
qualify - make sure in 3 moves you understand the person enough to know wether you want to continue talking to them, or exit. the kind of person you want to disqualify here is, non-responsive self obsessed ( people like ). like that unboxed guy. they are not listening anything, just blabbering.
exit - almost every exit I am doing is like just move out. make it graceful.