social framework -2

there is many element here. having people to hang out with. dating, relationship. giving talks, asserting yourself. and all these are convoluting the approach. but I think if I look closely it’s a layered system where one needs to be built on top of another.

on the gross level there are two category, outwards appearance( haircut ) and inward understanding ( the element of charisma ). and than there is two playground. day to day challenges ( office ). and deliberate challenges ( dance class ).

outwards appearance -
all you need a basic grooming routine. good hairstyle, decent style and good nutritious food. educate yourself around it. and go for it.

inward understanding -
a good education is defiantly important here. but lets see what I already know and start doing today. first of all you need to be comfortable and clear with yourself on your wants and intentions. absolutely no confusion. than start with asserting yourself authentically. fine If you make mistake. be very clear and assertive in you point of views with your colleagues. like here is me and this is my thought and boom ! like it or hate it. this is something I can do right away. constantly practice and hone it. learn to question. get out of that defensiveness. don’t take shit from anyone. just authentically assert yourself.

than probably start taking lead on tasks. now at this point I will not suggest to go to other places like dance class or whatever. start to assert yourself authentically first. and than read the required books and go spiral in learning.