Social Recalibration - LIN.

Lin is amazing in the sense of understanding of me, she is excited to find someone like me. She is giver with fairly no self importance. She has a life in the sense she is trying to live although very focused on health. In that she has a life. She is mature enough to understand the complexity of relationship. She has a playfulness. She is happy to play housewife.

There is a huge amount of common interest, books, yoga, spirituality…

She is very different than me in terms of prudencey and ambition and other strength.

Something about her age spooks me, I have a understanding that she must look for long term prospect, and for some reason I am not the right fit for her at the moment. Now it might be possible that she is happy with staying with me even there is no long term prospect because it feels good.

Continuing this relationship without a long term prospect is niether good idea for me nor for her. Cutting her loose completely doesn’t feel good either. This is the strange kind of deadlock.

A part of me wants to communicate with her, talk to her. But I don’t want her to think long term relationship expectation.

Her age and nationality and my lack of experience in this area where I can make these kind of decision put me in this situation where I have to say no. and move on. Be friend talk to her and nudge her in other direction. She could be such a good friend.

So you want to be with her until you find someone else!! No. There has to be clear undrestanding that it can not go further, and this can not happen unless it is very clear that there is no more physical intimacy. You don’t want easy and comfortable. It is just too tempting. If you want to look for other prospect you will have to get out of this one. There has to be exit in terms of mind.