Social recalibration - What girls want.
Lin - she already has ideas of romantic relationship. What she wanted was ease, she wanted to be in love and relationship but it has to be natural. She didn’t wanted to make choices and decisions. And as I lead without being too intrusive and let her come at her pace. A1000yoga fascilitated this very well it was a naturally lead to come closer, she enticipated and then the breakfast was just building more and more comfort. I think she was also impressed the way I lived me my life, how to live a good life, my spritual angle. Maybe she wanted to do but didn’t have courage.
She wanted to be in realtionship but natural and real, the process was at ease, and gradual, she also liked what I was doing and fall in love in the end,
Ritika, she also desperately wanted to be in a relationship, few conversation and ease, without me really qualifying but kinda funny and smart, she liked my confidence. She has nothing to do with my work, not only she didn’t get it. She despised it, according to her, I am boaring. She jumped on the first chance.
Sixen, she is living outside of her country, she expected this will be fun. Living alone might be even more frustrating, alone and full of logistics., she wants to escape and have someone to talk, she is shy also so wouldn’t start her self. She clearly loved the ease but pace spooked her off. Then I am not sure what her sexual inclination is terms of sex’s.
Make no mistake, all of these people are constantly being hit, and being asked up to marraige.
There are girls like political sience, widow girl, Renuka, Akshada, Preksha, chiness girl, Sneha, the German girl, infect it seems every single girl who has a bit of less importance, who is not relating attention to primary pursuit is in a way ready for it.
There is one thing every girl is kind of looking for is this natural progression, you meet, you smile, then you maybe go out, and then maybe go out again, talked, laughed, comfort.
One of the really non-attractive thing is neediness and despriation, delighting responsibility of deligating decision on her. This is what repulse Akshada and German girl and will repulse in anyone and many people are doing it.
Beside natural flow the next thing it seems to me every one of them enjoy was my confidence and self expression and being in my element. I could confidently and comfortably explain what kind of person I am. And very naturally keep things humorous and at ease, fully comfortably say things. Beside natural flow this kind of confidence is very attractive.
Not giving direct answer like with Preksha and challenging them to play with me also create strong and playful kind of attraction.
Me leading and letting her talk and figure out
Does appearance really matter !! Ofcourse it matters. You see the Turing head movement in Zara, you see the effect of well dressed gentlemen in innov8. The hygiene, grooming and presentable dressing [ which I am doing at the momen ] does reflect the kind of person I am and creates the primary attraction. On the other hand it might also have invisible effect. Done wrong it might act as non attractive trait.
There are other girls like Somaya, J, and Deepika who found me attractive but they are married.
Most of the girl has these romantic ideas and need of partner, these needs could be different but they are there. they are bombarded by many people all around, they love the natural serendipity, and flow, when they found someone who is non-needy, confident, humorous at ease who can lead it forward, they are too happy to follow along.
Not answering and keeping thing indirect and funny is very attractive, when you are well groomed and well dressed [ or at least not badly dressed ] it adds another layer of attraction. When key comanlity meets like with J and Lin, it is extremely attractive.
It is possible consciously they tell themself they don’t need partner and all, but they are helpless against emotions.