Spiritual recalibration - cause and effect.

There is a cause behind every single action. If I am feeling certain way in certain situation that means there is a reason behind it. An understanding. Knowledge. The reason is an agreement that I believe is true. And some sort of desire backing it.

I feel hesitation of should I talk to that person. Two conflicting agreements, I want to focus and know before what I am doing, I want to feel secure.

A reaction of any kind will be a coat on the underlying cause. Making that sensation a bit more intense next time.

Going over washroom before public speaking.

You can decide to not act infront of the effect [ porn | masterbation ] and it start to become feeble,

There is more than one cause. Low self esteem and disrespect.

You can not stop yourself from reacting but you can stop acting. Even better act with understanding.

Not coming before the time but come after 5 min. Not only not tolerating wrong behavior it giving corrective feedback.

The process is nutral, I have same urge for meditation and baths as I had for movies and porn.

See if you can trace back to knowledge from cause.