Telling truth of Lin to parents.

First condition is what I am saying wether it is harming someone or me.

If I tell the truth of lin to the parents it will break their strucutre of reality, If I don’t tell them they will keep building hope.

Did I do something wrong engaging with Lin? No. The relationship is one of the most important aspect of life to be experienced, one of the biggest roadblock. The way I engage with her, there is nothing wrong. Infect it is an essential experience of the life. I end up hurting her structure of belief.

Telling the lie is easy way out, and avoidance of conflicts. A relationship has to have the conflict. Not telling the truth in a way yielding to other peoples structure of beliefs.

If I know what I am doing is right, and I am willing to face the conflicts and potential loss of the relationship or opportunity telling the truth shouldn’t be a problem.

There is another challenge this convresation of accusing and asking for the justification. And threat of leaving out the relationship, loss of opportunity. Discomfort of falsai.

Discomfort of falsi lies in the fact that I should always speak truth and breakage of that. And the challenge here is there are structures of lies and there protectors