The art of dependent communication

reaction - so I am in the dependent state and what someone else is saying is something I don’t like, and I took it personally and there is a reaction inside me, that will turn it into a war, and the person who has most power will dominate the scenario. The power could be structural or power could be need based. If you have rightly interpreted the situation and has master the sankaras of past, there is no reaction.

lose-win - don’t stir the pot, let them have their way, keep the noise at bay. This reinforce their behaviour which is distastorus for the, and you get to be dominated and feel like shit. this is what I have been doing so far with painful results. The very essence of leadership is to lead dependent people.

no deal - stop dealing with them all together like vidhyashram case but then start ignoring the toastmaster giy here. This is not the solution either, maybe the last deal.

win-win - this is what essential has to be done. So the dependent person is looking for something, something maybe even not right for him, you are looking for something and ofcourse there is return that you are giving, how could you most effectively handle these scenarios ?