The companion relationship.

There is somewhat similar outlook towards the life between me and J. There are common sparks, Reading, Vipassana, yoga, meaningful work. She seems mature enough. It is a fertile ground to build a deep friendship oriented comapnion relationship. The context is companion.

Saftey, Deep connection, respect and being real are the heart of companion relationship. Sharing and being understood, and walking the life together with more ease are the expactations. Just sitting and having someone to share, really share the mind is a blessing. If there is no depth, saftey, understanding and real sharing it is useless.

To build such relationship and lead in that way, you need to keep setting the context, playfulness, affection but essentially saftey, sharing and depth. The setting should be quieter place like a coffee shop, keep the volume and frequecy 2-3 hours/week. Starting acting as if you are already good friends.

Keep the conversation around common spark to live a good life, to have a good work. The spritiual aspiration, the current obstacle. The shyness, the unfitting in sociatey, Do the 36 questions.

Keep the effort 60/40. Set the place and timing and logistics and than let her decide.