the deepest need

the ultimate need to be happy and avoid suffering. taking different shapes when manifested in a romantic relationship.

Lin need of having a soulmate, J need, Bhai need, Akhils need, getting rid of suffering of lonliness by social interactions, finding happiness in sharing similar dreams, sex and intimacy. in praise and avoiding rejections,

the need spring from suffering of lonliness and need for love. this love is what everyone is looking for, in the form of acceptance. praise, intimacy, facebook likes.

this suffering of lonliness is what they are afraid of, and trying to get rid of at all cost.

opening up to other people is opening to abuse and being used, or threat. or this internal threat of uncertanity this is why they are closed.