The dependent relationships.

In a broader sense, dependent relationship is in the realms of ego. It originates in the self ceterednes, and creates disturbance rather than connection, withdraw rather than add. Weather screaming, insecure or iAmSmart, these are emotionally loaded self-importance states. It is the internal state of discomfort or fear that is creating this state. So any kind of threat is only going to make it worse.

Fighting, lashing back, advicing, judging, sympathising… these are reaction. And they are only to fuel.

You must learn the art of giving corrective feedback without being offensive. Consistently and repeatedly. This is extremely helpful for them, and communicates what you will and will not tolerate and what is you stands on different ideas.

In the extreme cases you need to withdraw and set the boundaries strictly.

Non-engage | reaction | correction | boundaries.