The companion relationship #3
At this point me and J as a companion like each other. I think she does more than me. Now she is participating more. Giving more. Opening more. There is no need of watering in the way of fragility of the beginning. More it needs direction and boundaries. It can get more deep and real. There is no place of fakeness at all.
What is the purpose of a companion ? Alone. And only working life gets dry. Human connection. Company kind of fill the color. Giving and recieving the love. Sharing and listening the struggle. Playing and laughing. Helping. Learning. It makes life light and beautiful. Keeps the emotional balance.
Companion realtionship must be built on a common ground. What can really kill a relationship is pretending, taking advantage [ resentment ]. Impressing each other. What can really flourish is play, exploration, valnurablity, mutual respect, realness, laughing. There has to be win win and occasionally being part of others dream.
In the case of J. She is probably feeling alone and disconnected. Although I am not sure. The more i understand her dream. The better I can align the direction. And the more i tell my dream she can do the same.
She has pretty much no body who understand her here, she is suffering emotionally and her mind could be going insane, maybe she is looking for saftey, real acceptance,
There is an organic element whe it comes to the direction, like the conversation and mood and laughter. On the larger scale, built more deeper foundation of valunerablity. The other element of affection and love. The underlying message is I care for you. Just being present. And then the layer of play and exploration. The fun part. Also let the nature play its part too. This keeps emotional balance in center.
In the absence of good companion relationship you end up falling back to destructive ones like Anurag, and that become more prominent. Without these you become needy.
What it is not about is ego gratification, using others for your purpose. Using other when you are down. As a escape. Although you can use it to learn how to create better romantic relationship.