The elements of relationship.

Intimacy - the close physcial affection. It flips the state of mind quickly. I don’t want it too much and there is angle of loosing strength. Once a week is good or maybe even twice. Sex comes in different flavour, from position, domination|submission, oral, verbal, body licking but it has it’s limitation. And beyond that there is not much. I personally don’t care that much. And thinking about something else while having sex isn’t very good.

caring - she cooks foods, wash clothes, bring gifts. giving surprises, In a way express her love, and show that she cares. I hug her all time, take her out for dinner, gift to show non-verbally I care. This makes thing warm.

attraction - there is a girl with Starbucks all over her. Provoacativly dressed but disrespectful. There is girl from north-east. There is this iitian’s. It tells you nothing about the person. But this attraction in way polarizes. The more you know that person the more it normalise. The more you don’t interact with the person the more it assumes. This is organic and natural but illusory and somewhat uncontrolled, accept it for what it is. And move on.

expression - you express yourself, she express herself, now the challange is you have a voice and ego and she has the same, some time it happens that you upset that, or she upset yours. Sometime it is laughing and loving and smiling.

Leading - Setting the rules but not being too restrictive. And not lineant. Understanding and leading. Clearing communication. Seeing where it is going, knowing what is important to you. What is good for her and architecting the relationship around her.

personal life - even though there is time together, there is a personal life beyond this. If it becomes hinderence of that, it creates subtle dissatisfaction.