The field of relationship.

Polarization - There is non verbal understanding of we like each other. But his non-verbal agreement creats the ambiguity that we can retreat back. And a mental stimulus, like will this message affect our agreement. To go all in there has to be clear plolariztion, kiss|sex or verbal, this creats much deeper commitment and comfort that we are actually seeing each other.

*The main chacter - * Once you have a main chacter inside your head, you automatically start to interact with that. And that subdue other chacters. This also subdue this need of constantly impressing other people.

Killing the Aloneness- Now you have someone to talk to, have dinner with, share things, give and receive affection. Dance, Luagh, Play, touch and be sexual. Done in moderation, this could be nice balance.

Being real - No image of perfection. You can be open and real with her. Bond on the level of reality and vaulnerability and acceptability at that level. You don’t have to pretend and can comfortably be yourself.

The affection - Yep you matter to me, I matter to to you. The sense of affection, there is polarizing affection as well. It feels even more strong when it is coming from opposite sex.

Physcial intimacy - The phsical closeness, the next level of affection. The stronger emotions and forgetfulness, a bit awkwardness. The arousal, the pleasure, play. The mutualness.

Exploration - Salsa, maybe Coorg. Exploring things together.

Supporting - Helping other to grow, recieving help to grow.

Fighting | control | domination - the conflict of interests are inavitable and part of the game.

The other character - meeting her family, meeting my family.

Turning it into an escape - constant barrage of message, and endless array of unnecessary conversations.

The stimulus - when you have no purpose in life, you can use it as an stimulus provider. This will keep you hooked.