The Frame

one of the major element of power is frame. the guy who owns the frame in conversation, naturally dominates. and the problem with nice guy like me is they offer their frame in conversation so easily. they think it should be genuine. they got played the man.

it also comes from the place of not hurting other. but foolishly thinking it in a binary format. and somehow it is easy to do for people like me. something about avoiding conflict. most of the time it is a denial of a rookie.

there are few situations I face regularly. one is a group of people I know. another is one to one with a new person. and occasionally I am the new guy in whole group.

*one to one with known people - * not every conversation is about power game. like dev, luci. but owning a frame is different thing. it is more about bringing the another person into your world. but than again there are some people who will start playing the power game like chirag. the best way to deal with them is to call the bluff. don’t let them run all over you. the challenge here is with force power they are able to produce anxiety. and that blocks intellectual capacity to fight back.