The learning from dating #02

The intiation was great and setup was very well done, being authentic and natural, comfartable and leading. I had fun. Converstion is gradually improving. You can be more in control of conversations direction and depth. Deflect the negative topics. The display of desire in form of complement or blunt should be there.

Things to improve -

Dsiplay of desire - I was aware that this needs to turn into more romantic but I am not sure how that track looks like, it was going in direction of friendship track. You need to go blunt on display of desire or some complement in way that shows your desire.

Calibration of safety - she was fairly insecure, and i went too deep too fast. Respect other people safty.

Fun activity - you need to introduce an activity like yoga or something fun, 36 question was good activity.

The good parts -

quick decision/ definite lead - very quick and decisive lead towards a definite place. Natural and smooth interaction along the way. I am going to a cafe nearby do you want to join me.

proper setting, volume, context - she was in way not my person, but experience was filling because the volume was around 1hr.

Leading the conversation - the conversation had all the elements, laugh, past experiences, beliefs, childhood memories, playing, teasing, being misterious, and I was leading all the way. I let the conversation go a bit silent.

Being authentic - I didnt pretend anything, just being myself and naturally having a conversation.

bringing love bomb - It was interesting that you actually did that and it was getting intense.

Letting her talk most of the time - ok she was talking pretty much all the time, and i was mostly string the direction.

Things not to do-

keep away from negative subjects - at one level she was talking bad about other people, and i was trashing amarican people. This is not good.