The Lie I tell My Parents.

My father asked me today, where is your friend from? I hesitated then I replied, “He is from here only.” Now there is a self-judgment in my head, I shouldn’t lie. This judgment is very superficial.

I don’t want to deceive my parents. It is more of there are certain things I don’t want to share with them. I am comfortable sharing that I have a girlfriend in my company, among some people, I am even proud.

So the difference with my parents is there is a conflict in beliefs. For them, it is almost as if it is a sin and then they are very amateur in the sense that if something against their belief is about to happen they will lose their sleep.

The consequences of telling the truth, in this case, are huge.

What is my reasoning behind it? If I wanna explore whether marriage is a right fit for me or not, or what kind of partner I want, of course, this is the best way to go about it. Would you rather do it by doing an arranged marriage?

So my reasoning is to explore whether marriage is for me or not and if so, then see if we are the right partners.

If I tell the truth in this case, I will get a serious amount of pushback, scolding, rejections, order to explain my beliefs, judgment, prove these beliefs wrong etc. And it is going to happen because they are going to protect their beliefs. Then I need to explain what is further. Can I take it? I am taking this with meditation anyway.

On their front, they will have to face their mind when something strong against their beliefs will happen. One it will scare the sit out of them, as this will seriously threaten their social status. They will lose their sleep.

So the key aspects are: I feel at unease speaking lie to anyone, there is a conflict in beliefs and relationship is important and they are very controlling.

The best people can do is judge you and reject you when the beliefs do not match.