The Lies.

Leatley I found it easy to just lie, I was with lin and then mom called me and asked what I was doing and I told her meditaion while I was really with lin. I didn’t really lie anything to lin, but wan’t telling the truth either.

It seems convienent. Not just convenient but telling absolute truth will put you in the unnecessary trouble. The same concept goes with dealing with controlling people, speaking truth is only inviting barrage of unnecessary question and justification without any fruitful result.

There is another thing I can do is misdirect the question, but at the heart it is the same.

Another thing could be to deny the answer at ground of you won’t understand that will surely be taken personally and somewhat not very socially acceptable.

Another thing is you can stop the relationship all together which is the possibility but not practical in family and close relationship.

But does it take a hit on my integraty? And self respect?
As long as I hold the idea that i have to speak truth, yes it does. But really why speaking truth is important?

It is important so you don’t end up speaking lies for others acceptance. This lies coming from desire of acceptance is the real problem. If you have no need of acceptance and you know the truth is only creating unnecessary stirrings. It’s better to adjust to the situation.

fundamentally speaking a lie is weight of a dependent relationship. It is better to speak the truth and let the relationship adjust to it than to create false kind of expactation. But if the calibration is too high, and not driven by ease of lieing, it might be acceptable.

It is always better to better your communication and life style than take an easy route of lie.