The needs of the conversation.

1. Unease of silence and a fear of connection - Especially around girls or new group. If you are doing nothing, or sort of eating. Example - girl in train, in BAL, in Mysore, Eating in Unboxed. in Tushita. But then It is not there when I sat in snowline infront of girl, then I was doing something. It gets worse when you look into other persons eyes. The group of girls in trek and dine.

2. The search of the partner - When I see some girls talking to other people and laughing, like Swedish girl talking to that guy or that iland couple, or those happy faces on Facebook like Irqa. All that dancing and showcasing on seductive songs. All those Tv ads and movies where I constantly justify how wrong they are ( sort of protecting myself ). When A successful and beautiful girl talk about something I want to close that thing. Getting uncomfortable when people talk about verginity. The age and the marriage, the desire for relationship. A sense of maybe I am missing something out. Intemacy and closeness. And then I kind of push back when opportunity presents.

3. Collaborating, Jamming, Advicing - Talk with dharna, talk with Akhil in old days, talk with Sohail, Talk with Sameer, Talk with bodhichita girl, iIona, esabell. Talk with Bhai/bhabi. When desire for sharing met desire for learning. When there is no ego involved and both are jamming about something they genuinely care about. Making different interpretation of same problem. Sharing an understanding.

4. The Natural expression of love, laughter and play - When people are emotionally comfortable, family, friends and relationship. It is emotionally rewarding to to make fun of each other, No ego involved. It also feels good to make others feel good or make other people laugh like Bhai bhabi, Sharing an experience.

5. The stimulus hunger - when you are feeling down agitated and tired. It feels like communication will get you out from it and refresh you. Usually it doesn’t, like esabell, trek and dine, walk in maclod. It is more of getting away from suffering sort of thing. Laughing on someone.

6. Time structuring - Like playing card, group travel, playing monopoly. It is just another way of passing the time, where you get something slightly better than watching TV, or EE playing games.

7. The pettings - self validation, sometime people are literally beginning to be praised or talking other people down. Syamu, Phool Singh, Bhai and his friends like Atul and factory guy a kind of display of insecurity.

8. The foramlity - Like in a group like Alex wedding or a party or a geathering like Tushita where you have to talk.