The opprtunities in outer stimulation.

Observe - ( external )

• The common ground - doing the same thing, trying to be happy, avoid suffering, The default of compassion, The distortion and motivation of gripping. Everyone is equal.
• The skill. Watch the theme of conversation. Is it learning sharing/ bantering/ closing/ time structuring.
• The reciprocity - Is there role playing or help. Is it attention game. Is it freeze.
• what layer is most prominent to you at the moment - The appearance( 1). The skill(2). The beliefs(3). The self importance(1). The awareness and understanding(5).

Observe -2 ( internal )

• the self distortion, liking syndrome, the activated character.

Observer -3

• Freestyle

Participate -

• Starting conversation.
• Closing.
• Bantering.
• Learning/Sharing.
• Entertainment.
• Experssion.