The phases of relationship.
The Spectrum -
Unfamiliar - A relationship start at being unfamiliar with someone, or partially familiar and conversation flow naturally towards familiarity, a respected and respetive ( esabell ).
- Partial familiarity, Familiar by seeing and actions and no wish to move forward, the Indian dude from Mumbai. Or being approached +vely iIona.
- Freeze out/No action- electric cats, London group.
- Disrespectfully asking or telling. Bad mouthed girl in Mumbai hostel.
- Force Familiarity - untold expectation of conversation ( Italian group )
- No interest/No action
Familiar -
When there is comfort and need conversation naturally drifts towards mutual interest. ( esabell/israilian girl )
- when there is no need or enough comfort it awkwardly terminates here.
- take advantage and filling own needs ( Kung fu photographer, Rajiv )
- start playing games and shit testing each other ( Shenaz )
- a group usually exit here.
- the first exit of being comfortable around.
Mutual interest -
Organically from here conversation move towards liking ( esabell, elvin ) or neutral ( Chinese girl, the council girl ). Based on do they really care or not
- one sided interest, other side intensity mismatch ( punjabi guys in Radhakrishnan)
Liking -
Natural we end up being friend here. Esabell. Akshay, Sohail.
Attraction -
If need is there, Naturally at this point we start to tease, poke, advice, help, flirt, share and move towards relationship. ( Lara, elvin, )
Relationship -
Exit.
If polarised and flirt properly, attraction turns into relationship. And we start to poke, tease, help, share, make fun of each other, care….
It could happen that liking and attraction happens first because of our conditioning or needs and then try to justify our mutual interest. If the need meets there could be short term relationship like this, where sex and ego is primary drive but don’t confuse them with proper relationship…
There are three proper exit - comfortable/ friendship/ relationship.