The qualities and variables.

The must haves.

• she should not be so self centred that she is not willing to even listen. Forget moving in other direction. This is not a permanent state but major outlook, of course when people are happy they would happy to even sacrifice. There was this girl in cuppa, with legs stretched. The fundamental makeup of the person should be of giving and co-creating. Lin is a good example.
  • there should be a desire and availability in other person, when someone is already engaged or someone has no attraction, than there is desire missing in the first place. Maybe after a conversation there might be one. But there has to be attraction. When people are uncomfortable it is hard. The girl at snow line. Is perfect example of it. Sixen is perfect example of it.
  • connection. There is should be this resonance and common direction. Ritika vs Lin. That connection also makes other person respectful. Lin finds me amazing because I do what she cares about. Our thinking match in the larger sense. On the other hand with Ritika. It was impossible.
  • mature, non-needy, independent. Someone who can roll with life, deal with conflict. Not calling 10 times for assurance. [ Namrata.] can take care of herself and has her own life.
  • physical appearance and health, she must be able to maintain herself. She do not need to be diva but not completely careless with her body. She should be in a good health in the sense if she is going through some strong disease.
  • willingness to work on the relationship. There should be the willingness to work on the relationship. J has it. Willingness to make sacrifices like moving out.
  • homely, honest, simple. Someone who takes care of home, not a temptress. And a sense of satisfaction.[Somaya. Divorced.]
  • Match in the major areas like finance, material vs spiritual inclination. Sex. Child.
  • age| nationality. She should be in the similar age group. Or the maturity level.
  • there should be a desire to grow. Not being stagnenet.,