The social recalibration.
The foundation is the default of peace, bliss and ease. This is beyond the realm of subtle, gross sensation [emotions] and voice. Tap into that source and rely on it for security and emotional fulfilment. Every uncomfortable state is the opportunity to relase the dillusion of the voice. The thing about emotions and voice they are hopelessly imprermanent. How could you get any emotional uplift when you are coming from the place of neediness. You will end up looking for acceptance.
The balance is fundamentally arriving at the state where voice is not complaining about the it’s concept of social requirement. And feeling fulfilled. Is it possible. It will start complaining about somethingelse. Once you get into, It might start complaining about the very relationship it was so much looking forward to. Center the mind in your purpose and self realization.
What world has to offer fundamentally is the emotional curve. the acceptance, anticipation, anger, frustration, conflict, fear, lust, fight.. explore it. And master it. Don’t run away, play with it. These are the toys. All the relationship stimulate all kind of emotions. Family, friends, strangers. Ackowledge, accept and grow where you need to. The very best any one can do is to stimulate an impermanent emotion or hurt the voice. Or accept the voice and praise it.
The most interesting one is the curve of courtship. Explore it, from awakwardnes, to familiarity, to closeness, to acceptance, to intimacy, to care, to share, to fight, to conflict, to breakup. You need to explore this one throughly.
people wants only to experience the positive emotions, the emotions to attachments. A lot of people, sometime including me also in the realm of very high self importance, and experincing the emotions of ego. You can choose to not engage in them. While you have a self respect of yourself.
That’s pretty much it. Peace and bliss | Voice and impermanent emotions | the emotional curve of all the emotional | play and ease | the curve of courtship | the curve of ego| you can decide to play, you can decide to opt out.