things that comes into the way

i feel strongly now that there is a prerequisite to live a good life. we need to remove things that comes into the way. talk about easy said than done.

and for me the one of those things is doing things to just show-off. before I talk about why I want to stay away from it. lets dive into the reason why it is there in first place.

it feels good

the major problem is it really feels pleasurable. and the reason seems more of a biological than personal. almost everyone I know ( who is unsatisfactory ) seems to somewhat stuck in this trap. and man does society and people take advantage of it !.

if I think about analogy it seems like that pill or drug which is just soothing out current situation ( by forgetting it ) and under the hood, creating a ton of the new problem. you can think of the need to do it over and over with high frequency.

biologically it seems like serving the needs of humans being a social animal. but i see more of it as glitch.

it pseudo serve the need of purpose

every action has a reason. and when we don’t choose our life and action. we end of doing the default and it is not pretty. in some way i started to feel at least a big part of my worth is more or less what other people think about me. and analysing from biological stand point it makes sense for human survival. also it does make sense with intro-extroverted ration in society. and it seems bigger than oneself.

why I don’t want to entertain it?

it creates a fear of judgement-

the biggest downside is if this is my real underlying philosophy to live a life, is actually paralysing judgemental fear. if everything i do has this check what will people think about it. I am setting up myself a very inauthentic and dissatisfied life.

phycological cage

it affects freedom a big time. it creates a tight physiological cage which pretty much paralyse a person to try anything new or authentic.

and it is a full job to keep making sure that a structure didn’t fall while there is nothing at the bottom but an illusionary base.

so how does one get away from this trap?

the truth is, it is going to come and the only thing a person can do is, react skilfully. granted sometime it will catch me off gaurd but that’s ok. but in general when I’m aware it is happening. i can defiantly react better.

another thing that helps a lot is living in a culture or design it in a way, where it is not dominating. i know the environment where it is very provoking. and I should rather to avoid them as much as possible. if not should be aware of the fact