What a real relationship has.

Attraction - are you attracted by Vidhi! The high heel and the cleavage in salsa class, how about the well dressed in Dwani, Did the attraction drops as they start to talk to you. Or when they are standing in the relative scene dharmashala. Did you felt attraction towards Shenaz. This is the trick of the mind. And it is loosing it’s power by the time.

When someone has the smooth and well maintained body, fine clothes, vivid presentation, I feel attraction, I feel like a want to see more. But that attraction is much lower than what it used to be and is not something I want to act upon but master. And it is the matter of time I will master it.

Similairity - Kavita was very unsimilar than me, Deepika had similiar interest. Shenaz was completely different than me, lin has similiar interest.

What I am intersted in! Spirituality, self understanding, meditation, yoga, simple, non-conformist, self growth, understanding. Freedom. Books. Meaning

For example someone who is not similar than me would be intersted in party, alcohol, weeds, smokes, intellectual conversations, gamer, alternative living.

Caring - attraction creates the caring. But that is more of selfish caring springs from the need of accptance. There is another kind of caring, where you want other person happy but there is nothing you want in return. There happiness gives you pleasure. There alivation of suffering makes you worthy.