Whats ahead with LIN
The conflict -
For me the main purpose of this relationship was to explore, learn, experince, and filling emotional tank. At this point in life I want to explore more instead of any sort of commitment.
For her this seems to be more intense like the ideals of love and soulmate, she is changing flights and plans because of me, she is becoming more attached.
And its this attachment and expectation that is causing me scary discomfort.
- Breakup - You must clearly need to communicate that you are not intersted in soulmate kind of stuff and set the expactation in the right place. What is the right expectation?
This was mainly about killing the loneliness not attachment. She is leaving tomorrow and I don’t want you to hang on to me. Explore life. This was a nice episode but it has to end here.
What is recent is easy to correct.
Soft continue - if you continue softly, not being clear about the right expectation, she will keep building the dreams. And then eventually you will have to do it in unmanly way. Like stop returning calls. You have to make it clear, what you want. This will put her life and your life on hold.
Hard continue - if you agree to her, and let her continue without saying anything. This will create choas. You will become irritated and disrespectful. And the blow will only be harder.