You tube video - self esteem. [script.]

Don meguile Ruiz is a maxican teacher who shared his wisdom tradition called Toltec with incridble simplicity in his book called the four agreements.

If you look at a child, he is always playing, expressing himself, he can walk naked and doesn’t care an iota what other thinks at all. He is not trying to impress anyone. And If you look at an adult he is even afraid to say to even express his opnion. What happened to us.

Lets assume that you started a new business, you planned for it, tried, and and work months on it. And when you lauch nobody gave a shit. It didn’t workout the way you want it be.

Now there is a voice in our head, telling us how stupid I am. What was I thinking, I can’t do anything right. Judging us. Rejecting us. Abusing us. That self-judgement is the real problem.

If we have self -judgment. That means we have no acceptance. If we don’t have self acceptance, we don’t trust ourself. And start to pretend in front of other people.

When we don’t accept ourself. We start looking for acceptance from other. We believe to be in relationship with other. We have to be in a certain way And we start to pretend on a certain way. Just to be acceptaed.

And the more we pretend the more self judgement we have. Some try to counter that voice with alcohol numbing themself. So they can keep pretending, because they are too afraid.

When you look at a small child he is playing all the time, he can cry, laughing, loving and walk naked in front of people and does not care what other people’s opnion, we all begin with extremely high self esteem. But when we look at the adult, he is afraid of giving saying his true opnion. Instead of expressing, he is trying to impress other people, what happened to this adult ? What is he afraid of ?

He is afraid of self judgement. There is a judge inside our head and book of law. Every time we go against, and all of our action and reactions are being judged severally.

The real problem is the lack of understanding and then protect them and reject ourself.

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