Change the language.

First of all, change the language you are using in your mind. Words are framing the situation. Root out the negative words and use every words that are positive. Instead of hard use word challenging.

Instantly, change the frame. When you see competing with someone change it to what can I learn and share from this guy, he invested his resources in some other area than me. Let’s learn from him. If he is smarter than even better.

When there is something like sexual turmoil, this is the opportunity. And constantly live in the state of what is the opportunity here.