Learning of the day #34. The intruder.

Morning I went to the millet cafe with Lin, we had good time. And then in the there is this person, I asked him to take the plates. And then he came again for asking if he can take that other cups.

Then he stand there while I was playing with Lin. And then I look at him and laughed. Then he was standing there, looking at him again now it is turning kind of awkward. Ignoring him can also feel a bit of the pain.

The problem here is the emotional intelligence of this guy, ideally he should not be poking around other people. Or at least keep standing there. In his mind he might be even helping.

The tease is because of him I am not acting the way I usually do. This is the problem, he is also giving me opportunity to release the need of other person approval.

You should continue doing what you were doing relasing any tenion, ignoring either his presence [ letting him know non-verbally it is not ok or not replying ] or letting him know it is not ok. Or verbally and non verbally letting him know that it is not ok to intrude.