Lin | Relationship | Marriage

There is one thing that is very clear, I will not live with Lin in the state of ambiguity. Another thing that is clear that I will be focused on meditation and won’t be engaging in intimacy this year. Another thing that is clear that I will not be listening to the attachment oriented voice in my head.

The decision with Lin was taking so much time because I was trying to take the decision based on pro and cons, and this kind of decision can not be taken that way, or If you take it that way, you will have to face other voice. so basically taking decision on that plane is problem. The foundation of decision is how it will make me feel.

So the option is clear, either live with her in a way that is good for me and good for her or move out.

One thing to notice is her state of mind about relationship is she has moved on. Her emails are fairly cold and it seems she may be in mild depression.

Another thing to make sure, the flow of life is such that she might find someone, and her state will change. and she is mostly responsible for her behaviour and if you stay because of that you are digging a hole for both.

What do you want out of relationship?
Is it because of lonliness, attraction, social pressure? work on yourself. Is it because you really enjoy someone’s company?

Two people are not ready for the relationship when they have very rigid ideas of world and they are closed about it.

Some of the great elements of the relationship are that you are in the position where you are filled with love and non needy. You feel resonance and connection with other person, you know what you want in your life, and where you are going. You also know what other person wants from relationship and There should be strong commitment.