the eighteen yards

deep in their heart people feel lonely, alone, and desperate for love. this creates need or desire for intimacy or even fleeting attraction, these are the cause of desire for intimate relation.

once there is a familaity, if need is there, it start to morph into the desire and start to comeup as a non-verbal cue. as we become more familiar, either it validate our dream or not. if it validate we sincerly start to look into it.

the tricky part here is that because it is coming from the realm of mind, if something is easy and avaliable in abonden quality. we value it less. that is why if you become easily avaliable you have less value. at the same time if you are not avaliable it can loose it’s interest. subtle.

as you go out on date, similarities become clear. similarity of what both of you are looking for. and when not, there is a force.