The plan of lower self.
There is a voice driven by emotions like fear, greed, competition, judgements, impusive. This is the mind. This is a disaster.
Living in this plan, and action driven by these stream of cause and effect, a downward spiral. there is nothing but misery on this plain.
So why we do it? because it is default unless you chose otherwise. and it is easy and provide instant distraction. the second degree effect are unresonable. The dissatisfaction, the noise, the poor self image.
Actually this is the problem, not the job or relationship, this is the sucker.
I am not going to live here. period.
How do I get out of here?
First you stop listening to it. It is very seductive, and persuasive. You never fight, just release the attention. and start taking action based on intellegence.
Now this will not happen overnight. but it will happen overtime.
Step by step build your action intellegently, and raise your tolerance towards the voice. Even do things that are against it.