nitesh sharma

Professional Programmer, Introverted traveler, and Admirer of classics.

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Moving Forward.

So the first layer is to constantly grow with four domains. This I will continue, maybe sometimes it is possible that I am not feeling in the grooves, the mind is unstable but in a matter of time, it will become stable. And I can continue.

Another iteration I need on top of it is, in all these 4 domains, burning goals. It should not be infinitely churning but the constant meaningful goals and improvement.

The more I know the mind, the more I can be sure about the reasonable expectations from it. All these patterns are expected and will be there.

There should be a worthy goal for life. You can be sure it is not going to feel pleasant to pursue it, but then, you can be sure nothing will be feeling pleasant all the way.

Given all the options you need to decide what kind of life you want to live, and then, go after that.

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Day #112.

In the evening I played with Lin, physically, and after that mind became active. That is the fact. When I came home. I was somewhat centered but after playing and then seeing her reaction mind wasn’t.

I continued forward with clear and calibrated learning.

If the implementation is not done, it is a waste. I should have take care of clothes today.

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Day #111.

The mind was very active today, it was judging and getting agitated and afraid. The reason is, contrary to what feels, because of fear of possibly not achieving some hidden desires or missing out on some ideals. This is the voice I precisely need to be free from.

There was too much stuff I am trying to do, It needs to be simplified. So I can bring more power to them.

There was other stuff that came today, Lin checkup and Vishnu. I very casually became harsh on him. Something I would never tolerate from anyone.

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Grammer #11.

It was winter and chill was bitter on the Mount of Olives. From Jerusalem, across the narrow cleft of the Kidden Valley, came the smell of smoke, incense, and burning flesh from the Temple and its foulness mixed with the turpentine odor of terebinth on the mountains.

You can not worry about upsetting every person you come across, but you must be selectively cruel. If your superior is a falling star, there is nothing to fear from outshining him. Do not be merciful - your master had no such scruples in his own cold-blooded climb to the top. Gauge his strength. If he is weak, discreetly hasten in his downfall: Outdo, outcharm, outsmart him at key moments.

It’s all about what happens when things stop coming easily. Maybe it’s the wall we hit at work when we go from cruising and feeling like we’re in our element to having to do something that, for the first time, feels brutally hard and...

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Day #110.

There is a need to simplify the process and increase the streak size. Feeling lost is just another mental pattern and didn’t need to be fed too much.

There was a social weakness of taking advantage of others, both the cafe, I felt kind of unfair that I didn’t pay back enough, there was nonverbal disapproval from the small waiter at Vedic Chai.

I woke up late and just had some good time with Lin, and took it easy.

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Grammer #10.

He looked at me with a greatest of anger. He swore at me. He left me raging.

The policeman couldn’t buy a carton of cigarettes after that! And he knew walking to the grocery was a conscious act. He had control of it. I didn’ take food away from it. I didn’t take tobacco away, I didn’t take liquor away. I gave him the opportunity to walk.

Moment by moment, practice loving through your woman and world, allowing the force of your surrender to transform every moment into an orgasm of divine dissolution. Embrace every moment of experience as a lover and trust whatever direction love moves you.

Internal negotiating influence often sits with the people who are most comfortable with things as they are. Change may make them look as if they haven’t been doing their job.

Most people get caught up in the blizzard of things coming at them. In contrast, successful people get above the blizzard...

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Day #109.

There is a point where I felt like I am doing too much clarity when I know what needs to be done. There is no need to keep writing the same thing over and over again to convince the mind.

Also, slow and deep with less is better than quick and just the feeling of gratification. Reading through the clean code vs. writing those exercises.

I grew in terms of work-clean coding. social - communication graph and practice. relationship…

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Day #109.

It hurts a little when Konark told me that I need to take the batch in the next batches, I was saying something else and feeling something else and extremely agreeable. I felt disrespected in a sense, and I played cool from outside. And I also felt taking revenge by not doing it. His demands slowly start to increases to you will have to take non-node batch.

Lin is behaving quite turbulent. She is going to through extreme discomfort and not taking it well. I am reacting to her mood not responding.

The mind is trying to pull me in different directions. All that really matters is, did I follow the principle oriented approach I take? and the answer is yes.

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Relationship.

The relationship with Lin is really in a strange spot. She is in a tough spot. She doesn’t know what she is doing. She has no mind control. She is getting into negative spirals easily, and she is not making wise choices.

And then, she has a very fixed mindset. Infect, she thinks to change is an unethical thing to do. She doesn’t want to go to the therapist.

She is acting very needy and creating this environment in the house that is quite unproductive for her and for me.

She is in constant neediness. There is this thing that she does now that she tells about why you said that etc.

There is another aspect that she acts helpless and I act as a savior, another game of relationship.

Now, this is creating a sense of low self-esteem in me. It is me acting weak. Me not wants to hurt her.

What makes this arrangement complicated is that there are some parts I like and maybe some parts I...

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Grammer #09.

The problem is that BATNA tricks negotiators into aiming low. Researchers have found that we have limited capacity for keeping focus in complex, stressful situations like negotiations. And so, once a negotiation is underway, we tend to gravitate toward the focal point that has the most psychological significance for us.

Well, this was a time when I was pretending to be an intellectual, and I wanted to impress my grandfather with my opinions about everything I was learning in school. I was ready to show the one who had the biggest influence on my life how smart I was. Good luck! I went to my grandfather’s house, and he received me the way he always did- with a big smile, with enormous love. I started to tell him my point of view about all the injustice in the world, about poverty, about violence, about the conflicts between good and what I called evil.

Hmm… What my grandfather told me...

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