Know the elements - you do know them intuitively, but mediate and deeply realise it. Make sure you can see it. Needy| stable. Love | hatered. Self-importace | self deprecation. Similar | different. Acceptance| rejection. Domination| submission. Attractive| unattractive.

selection - wrong vibe, high self importance, closeness. Let go. attraction | similarity. These are the two main parameter.

deep | learning - these are the two main stance. Explore both of them. And communicate it.

process - introduce yourself, or become familiar naturally. If the conversation goes right, go for a chai| ice-cream, exchange phone number and set up something on Sunday. Setup dates and escilate. Polarize by going out or hanging out either one of your place.

relationship - balance it with time. have breakfast together. Or have a dinner together. Dates. And ocassionaly going out. Having personal lives...

Know wether it is going deep or learning experince, and communicate that properly.

If it starts to show the sign of disbalance. Take the blow and move on. If she does that. You should be able to see it from distance.

When you are in the relationship, there is intimacy and closeness. There is also sense of caring and discardtion the loneliness. A place where you go back home and have a good time together, have a breakfast together. Design it so going back home become desired.

There is common dates. Outing. Living together. Growing together. Supporting each other.

There is a balance. It shouldn’t be something that is creeping into all pervading everything. Do the daily breakfast together, weekly date. Going out every now and then. But then be sure your spirituality, work and health are checked.

So you introduce yourself, and conversation flows, if there is a connection. You take the lead and ask her out. Maybe ice cream or chai or breakfast. In that way you get to know more intimately. If the connection is going well. Exchange phone number. Let her know that you will ask her out if free on Sunday.

And it goes from there. You escilate a step further, based on her interest. And keep fascitilating meeting until you and she polarize. Enjoy this process.

The Polarization happens when you kiss. You do it by either having a meal cooking at your place. Some outing. Or something like that.

It isn’t the rocket science, just introduce your self, you are freaking attractive and confident, and then fascitilate dates, and escilate it until you polarize. And ofcourse as you will know someone else deeply. Based on that data decide wether you want to go further or wants to fold it.

There are people, who gives you strong negative vibes, a kind of coldness, It is visible they are playing games or on the other frequency [ the smoking girl in zostel, the Mumbai girl, the heels of dwani] if there is a strong arrogance, just leave them alone. There is other people who are closed or very much in their world, the German recover, The zostel corner. Leave them alone too. Than there are girls who are already engaged, let them be.

Once you trim down the extreme, there is similar| different dreams and values. Attraction and non-attraction.

If there is attraction and similar values, go for it. Take it as far as you can. Experience or build the relationship itself. And go deep. Real experince, real data, real change within. Or the very least you will learn. The long term relationship will be based on similar values, attraction, type.

If there is attraction and different...

You are meeting a lot of people and engaging in communities, but you need clarity in terms of what you want and what is game plan.

So the one approach would be to do this aggrasivly. If there is possibility just go for it. What it will do is create many friends, give you extreme exposure and with experience and data, you will kind of settle down yourself. In that way you are seeing through every facade of relationship.

The second approach would be to be selective but go all in. You are dating the right kind of people, but going as deep as possible.

The third approach would be to let the life make move, and then respond to its move. You just be yourself grow yourself and express yourself. And let the life create opportunity.

I need to explore it more. Understanding is different than experince becausae experience has the element of emotions. It is different to say about acceptance and actually experincing it. It is different to say the awakwardness but than experiencing it.

On the level of mind relationship introduce a character inside your head. And then you start to communicate and play with it. There is another element of uncertainty and expression of self and ego from other person.

On the level of emotions, it stimulate the whole nine yards. Love, insecurity, acceptance, thrill…

Do you want to take it beyond the point, where it becomes serious. I would if the connection is very right. Otherwise just play, learn and have fun ofcourse communicate this with other person if she is getting serious. And what’s wrong with making some friends. Anyway you are getting other people deeply. Why not try and see...

The element of relationships.

The expression - when one is just speaking one’s mind, opinion or dream. you are just vocalizing your internal state.

• Me speaking to J in Yogistan.
• Bhai speaking to me about his job.
• The watchman at innov8.

Acceptance | Rejection - Empathising vs judging and advising. Praise vs ridicule.

• Me listening to Sandeep and Ashish.
• Ashish advising me.
• Lin writing me letter| praise of Hrishi vs Krishnan ridiculing me.

Domination | Submission - Arrogance | neediness, self-importance | self-deprecation. One has no regards for others pain, other has no courage to speak his mind.

• Sohail, Texas girl | Anurag, Akshaya, Ashish, Mom
• Akshaya talking to me about him only.
• Texas girl, ready to run before I move.

Love | hatred - your heart is exerting love or hatred toward other people.

• Me accusing vs loving everyone around me.

• Mom verbally doing that.

  • ...

yoga -

• I can join and continue a yoga studio which at the moment options are Amrutha and mindfit. Later I can do my teacher training, and eventually start doing it by myself. For now join Amrutha for 3 days package and ask them if you can do 5 this week, as next week I will go for retreat.

When you come back from retreat. try mindfit.

food -
breakfast | lunch ** - I think breakfast and lunch is solid.
**water - I think the quantity of water is also good.
fruits - eat 1|2 fruits everyday [ bannana | apple ]
walnuts -. 2 per day.
amul pro - take 2 scoop every day in the evening.
supper | dinner - 1-2 idly | poha, dinner is good.

suppliments - complete the course and then just do the normal food.

check up- vitamins + dental every 6months to an year.

If you are willing to take it, it transform. So you don’t know what to do now. Then do it now, figure it out. You don’t know what to figure our check your list of matters.

Are you feeling out of your element. Then watch you mind, let go become stronger. Something hit you. Observe it. Digest it. Grow. Are you feeling the need of social injection, observe that need. Know it’s form. Is your mind tired, watch it, releases it. Stretch it.

It is your Job to design your life, and you know the best case scenario. Know what your mind is telling you, don’t just blindly obey.

Keep your focus tight. And keep moving. All these test and trails and triumph and pinning down, all of it is making you only strong.