Dating 00- stranger welcoming you, start dating and guide conversation. Show that you are interested.

Dating 01 - on the spot, you find a stranger and she is warm do the dating on the spot.

Dating 02 - on the spot, but you are unsure about the warmth, in that case smile and begin.

Dating 03 - on the spot a stranger busy in her job, intiate a quick conversation on either activity or opnion on your spark. Based on the importance of work you can leave them as well.

Dating 04 - stranger closed vibes, if someone is sitting staring at mobile tight face, smoking leave them alone.

Dating 05 - engag in your spark activity. One yoga class or physiology or stuff like that… always keep that on.

If you notice over last 1 year period, even though you were not very much available, there were contant stream of opportunities. So dont overpursue it. Just check the vibe from person next to you...

Hurting self-respect - Disrespecting knowigly [ krishnan ] and disrespecting in ignorance [ prachi ], in both cases other person put him first, and than it creates strong resentment in my heart. So much so than I started to be protective angainst any one near me. The intensity increases with the proportion of public. The ideal scenario is to clearly communicate it at the moment. Transmute the thoughts of resentment with thought of descory of learning space and the infinite opportunity in future, thank wholeheartedly other person to bringing it in your awareness and creating opportunity for you to grow.

Impressive argument - asking a question that impresses another person, futuristic or old. Tenzin palmo or sandeep maheswari, there is no desire to find the answer but to either impress a person I consider supirior or a group of people. Transmute the direction with sincer gratitude for...

Leave the bullies - -Being domainted by someone’s ego is feels bad. Bad in terms of self respect. When someone builds a supirior and subordinate daynamics. Krishnan and me was that daynamics. Kewat and his room partner was that daynamics. Me and kewat. An insecure and a dominating person is the pair.
You must send the clear signal that this behaviour is not ok with me. In terms of drastic measures in krishnan case you should have left the place. Clearly cut yourself off from these people with clear intention because of his behaviour.

Subtle disrespect of ego - Leaning on the side of self importance the person makes other wait for his minor things. Indirectly setting the frame of importance. If other person is not egoistic than it is a different story, it is not the act but the intention. Krishnan replying on skype, hosam is completing his project. On the other hand avinash and geshan...

The amazing part was that I intiated the dating on the spot. The common spark made it fruitful to have the conversation itself. Inderictly ask wether someone is in relationship. And if there is hackler. Ask him to justify there accuses or misinterpretate the arguments. Do not ignore or take the shit.

Good parts -

1. Dating onspot. - I started dating on the spot itself. The common spark of yoga and hypnosis smoothly transitioning the converstion. She was volunteering the information and it was easy and fun to communicate in such sense.

2. Common sparks - she was interested in yoga and hypnotism which I am too, so conversation was engaging and the information and struggle exchange was there.

Improvement part -

1. The hackler - her boyfriend was a dependent dude. He was getting uncomfartable, and eventually intimated a sercustic argument about my view on my religion.

2. The...

Safety - a non-judgmental, not asking to change container. A fundamental requirement for any worthwhile relationship.

Shared value and beliefs - common ideas of what is right and wrong, how things are.

Shared sparks - similar curosity, fascination, immersion, mastery, service.

common history and story - the place we grew up, the story that draw similar conclusion…

The group where I find these - yoga class, toastmaster, self-improvmentmeditations, cafes…

The people - avinash, Hrishikesh, sohail, preksha, akshaya.

The intiation was great and setup was very well done, being authentic and natural, comfartable and leading. I had fun. Converstion is gradually improving. You can be more in control of conversations direction and depth. Deflect the negative topics. The display of desire in form of complement or blunt should be there.

Things to improve -

Dsiplay of desire - I was aware that this needs to turn into more romantic but I am not sure how that track looks like, it was going in direction of friendship track. You need to go blunt on display of desire or some complement in way that shows your desire.

Calibration of safety - she was fairly insecure, and i went too deep too fast. Respect other people safty.

Fun activity - you need to introduce an activity like yoga or something fun, 36 question was good activity.

The good parts -

quick decision/ definite lead - very quick and decisive lead...

Curiosity spark [ question, problem, curious ] -

• what is the right process to have flourishing relationship and communication and how to navigate social jungle with grace.
• what are the element of self and nature of realtiy and how to progress logically and calibratedly.
• yoga.

Facination -

• meditaion and yoga.
• technology [ old ]
• toastmaster.

** Immersion -**

• a deep conversation.
• learning programming.
• reading harry porter.

mastery -

• communication and relationship.
• technology.
• self exploration.
• writer and business.

service -

• the people who want to grow but lacking infrastructure.

I am an introvert.

• [ right person, right context, right volume, right place at right time ] one to one meaningful conversation with avinash, hrishi, dharna fills me up.
• [ right person, right place, right/wrong context, wrong volume, wrong time ] one to one conversation with sohail, fills me up but living together at bir drains me down.
• [ right person, right volume, right context, right place at right time ] close family dinner, unconditional love of mom, closeness on self layer feels beautiful. Close dinner bhai, hugging mom.
• [ somewhat right people , right volume, right context, right place at right time ] being able to join a group and playful, laugh and comfatable around people feels good too. But even without that I am good.
• [ wrong people , wrong context, right volume, right place at right time ] being around party people, smokers, stoner, drunken people, with ego inflictions...

The suggestion for next date -

1. The place - A quite and secluded place like pure soul would be great. If you are walking choose less noisy place. Cap it with one hour. Going to a yoga class and than moving to have a dinner is again great.

2. Own yourself - No lying to make your self look better. Own yourself, you are one of the best human being in the world. strictly speaking in terms of distance, just see what you have done so far. How could you place yourself below any kind of person when you have worked your way to collage, master the art of programming, lived on dubai, get paid 3.5lac/per month. Self exploration at the level of insane depth. Traveld for 2 years. Read 100s of books, filled your holes like social. How could you put your self below to a rich person who has not traveled the life even the 10% yet. Be a bit proud of yourself not in egositc way but you are one hack of...

Soical -

• the assertive desires.
• learning from dating and practicing dating and communication.
• the emotional situation at home.
• work with the connection exercises from good life book.

Spirituality -

• bhagwat gita rading.
• thought transmutation.
  • ego.
  • intellectual.
• mahatma gandhi.

contribution and finance -

• read and exercise contribution from good life project.